In an increasingly complex and interconnected world, one thing should remain simple and clear: the personal choices we make regarding marriage, relationships, children, and religion are ours to make. Whether we marry or not, choose to have children, love a partner of our choosing, or follow a particular faith, these are deeply personal decisions that must not be subjected to others’ judgment. As long as our choices cause no harm to others, they should be left untouched. Unfortunately, despite the clarity of this principle, society frequently oversteps, pushing its own norms and values onto individuals, often undermining the very essence of personal freedom.
In the Philippines, as in many parts of the world, debates surrounding issues of marriage, reproductive rights, religion, and LGBTQ+ equality continue to spark tension. While progress has been made, the country still grapples with the complexities of these issues. This article dives into these ongoing struggles and makes the case for why society should protect individual freedoms—not impose its values on them.
The Fight for Divorce: The Right to Leave an Unhealthy Marriage
One of the most debated issues in the Philippines today is divorce. The country is one of the few places left where divorce remains illegal, and this law traps countless individuals in unhappy, and often abusive, marriages. Take Haidee, for example—a 40-year-old woman who, after marrying young, found herself in an abusive relationship marked by violence and infidelity. Unfortunately, divorce is not an option in the Philippines, leaving her and many others stuck in legal limbo.
While some couples may choose to stay in their marriages out of love or commitment, there are many others who find themselves trapped due to the lack of legal alternatives. The recent push for a divorce bill in the Philippine Congress has reignited this conversation. Supporters argue that divorce offers a necessary avenue for those in toxic marriages to escape and rebuild their lives. However, the bill continues to face strong opposition from religious and conservative groups, particularly the Catholic Church.
For Haidee and countless others, divorce is not merely a matter of preference—it’s a lifeline. Those advocating for divorce rights argue that the law should not keep individuals in abusive situations under the guise of preserving traditional values. Instead, society should protect individuals from harm by giving them the legal means to leave when their marriage no longer serves them.
Reproductive Rights: Empowering Individuals to Make Informed Decisions
Another crucial area where personal choice is often contested is reproductive health. In the Philippines, the 2012 Responsible Parenthood and Reproductive Health Act was a major victory in providing access to contraception, sexual education, and maternal healthcare. Yet, the implementation of this law has faced significant obstacles, mainly from the Catholic Church and conservative sectors of society. Despite these setbacks, the law is an essential step toward empowering individuals to make informed choices about their reproductive health.
The lack of access to reproductive healthcare leads to unplanned pregnancies, maternal deaths, and other preventable health issues. For women and families, the ability to plan and manage their reproductive health is not just about personal autonomy—it’s a matter of public health. By supporting the Reproductive Health Law and pushing for full implementation, society can ensure that individuals, particularly women, have the tools they need to make the best decisions for their bodies and their future.
Religious Freedom: Embracing Diversity in Belief
Religious freedom is a fundamental right guaranteed by the Philippine Constitution, yet in a country with a predominantly Catholic population, this right is not always fully respected. While Filipinos are free to practice any religion or none at all, those who do not conform to the dominant belief system often face social stigma, discrimination, or even exclusion.
Despite these challenges, the Philippine Supreme Court has reaffirmed that all individuals, regardless of their religion or belief, are entitled to practice freely. The reality, however, is that religious minorities, as well as atheists, can still face challenges in daily life. Whether it's navigating workplaces, schools, or social circles, the struggle for religious freedom and tolerance is ongoing.
It is crucial for society to not only protect the rights of individuals to choose their religion but also to embrace diversity in belief. Everyone deserves the freedom to practice their faith—or not practice at all—without fear of judgment or persecution.
LGBTQ+ Rights: The Struggle for Equality
The LGBTQ+ community in the Philippines has made strides toward equality, but full acceptance remains elusive. Despite growing visibility and support, discrimination persists. Members of the LGBTQ+ community face challenges in the workplace, schools, healthcare, and even in their personal lives. The Philippines has yet to pass comprehensive anti-discrimination laws that would ensure LGBTQ+ individuals are treated equally under the law.
The SOGIE (Sexual Orientation and Gender Identity Expression) Equality Bill, which aims to protect LGBTQ+ individuals from discrimination, has been stalled in Congress for years. This lack of legal protection leaves many vulnerable to harassment and exclusion. Advocates argue that it’s time for the government to pass this bill, ensuring that LGBTQ+ individuals are guaranteed the same rights and protections as everyone else.
The Role of Society: Protect, Don't Control
The core message here is simple yet powerful: personal choices should be just that—personal. Whether it’s about love, marriage, family, or faith, these decisions are deeply individual, and society should have no say in what others choose, as long as no harm is done to others. The role of society should be to protect individuals from harm, not to control their choices.
When individuals are empowered to make decisions about their own lives, they are more likely to lead fulfilling and authentic lives. Conversely, when society imposes its values on others, it undermines personal freedom and stifles individuality. Rather than controlling, society should support individuals in making informed, autonomous choices, especially when it comes to matters of the heart, health, and belief.
Looking Ahead: Toward a Future of Respect and Protection
As the Philippines continues to navigate these issues, it’s clear that there’s still much work to be done. The path forward is one where personal autonomy is protected, where every individual has the freedom to make choices about their own lives without fear of judgment or discrimination. Legal reforms, such as divorce, reproductive health access, religious freedom, and LGBTQ+ protections, are necessary steps in ensuring that every Filipino can live their truth.
It’s time to reject the harmful, antiquated beliefs that restrict personal freedom. We must push for a society where people can make their own decisions, lead their lives as they see fit, and be free from the interference of others. Only then can we truly say we live in a free and just society, one that respects the rights and dignity of all its people.